In this vast world, you’ll inevitably encounter people with whom you simply can’t connect, whether due to differences in personality, values, or life experiences. But disliking or even resenting someone doesn’t mean you have to completely cut them out of your life.
Holding onto negativity toward others often ends up hurting you the most. The frustration, anger, or jealousy that arises when thinking about someone you dislike doesn’t just stay with them — it seeps into your own mind, affecting your peace and draining your energy. In the end, negative emotions harm you far more than they affect the person you dislike.
The best way to handle people you don’t get along with is to adopt three key attitudes:
1. Let it go in one ear and out the other, don’t care
Many people fall into the trap of overthinking or getting upset about what others say or do. But allowing someone else’s words to upset you is essentially punishing yourself for their behavior.
Getting angry or holding grudges doesn’t harm them — it only creates inner conflict within you. They lose nothing, while you lose your peace of mind. That’s a losing game for you.
Instead, train yourself to stay calm and detached — let what they say pass right through you without leaving a mark. When you stop caring about their actions or words, you take away their power to provoke you. In doing so, you remain in control, rather than letting them manipulate your emotions.