For decades, she said she was “uncertain of who I was.”

“I felt lost, as if out at sea. I also felt like a fraud because of how much I changed my identity when chatting with loved ones,” explains the freelancer, based in Staffordshire, England.

“It wasn’t that I couldn’t make my mind up, but rather my identity shifted,” One day I felt like I was a lesbian, yet days or weeks later, I’d feel more aligned with bisexuality. My sexuality was fluid.”

It wasn’t until she stumbled upon the term “abrosexual” in an online forum that everything clicked.

“Finally,” she writes, “I felt seen.”