In other words, graysexuality isn’t about absence, it’s about unpredictability, inconsistency, or context-dependency when it comes to sexual attraction.

To understand graysexuality, it helps to look at the broader asexual (or “ace”) spectrum. The spectrum includes:

• Sex-repulsed:** People who feel discomfort or aversion toward s**ual activity
• Sex-neutral:** Individuals who are indifferent to sexual experiences
• Sex-positive:** Those who identify as asexual but may still engage in sex for pleasure or connection

Graysexual people might align with any of these orientations, while occasionally experiencing attraction; whether rarely, mildly, or only under very specific emotional or situational conditions.

Counselor Eric Marlowe Garrison highlights that these identities are meant to offer understanding, not limitation. You don’t have to tick every box to identify as graysexual.